I wear size 11/12 shoes and I’m sure all you big feet sistas can relate to the friggin frustration of finding shoes, much less finding cute shoes that your old school grandma won’t fight you for. My shopping shoe experience is a little short of a nightmare. I quiver whenever I go shoe shopping. I go into the stores with the expectation that I will find NOTHING and if I am lucky to find shoes that fit and look fierce at the same time, then I already know I be will buying 5 pairs of the same shoes to last me for the next five years. But wait, that is impossible, because stores NEVER carry more than one pair of size eleven of the same shoes. I dare you to prove me wrong! If that ever happens, then it will be a miracle and it’s going to rain for the next 30 years (I’m serious). Can someone explain to me, why that is? Why do retailers only carry one pair of size eleven shoes? I am going to investigate and I will let you know in a follow-up blog. This my friends, requires its own investigation!
First and foremost, I can’t just go into any store and buy a pair of size eleven shoes and just walk out like it’s nothing. You know it! I can’t go into Macy’s, Aldos, or the little boutiques in the mall and get shoes. If I walk into those stores I hope for the best and expect the worst at all times. So my choices are limited to Nine West (by the way I love their shoes), Nordstrom Rack, DSW, Payless and a few others and if I am lucky, I’ll find shoes in Marshalls or TJ Maxx (thank you big foot girl for leaving that one size 11 for me). When I walk in these stores I am still a bit reluctant, I can’t shop for shoes and enjoy it like the regular girl or shoe enthusiasts. When I walk into any shoe store that is arranged by shoe sizes I immediately run to the size 11 and 12 section and while I am running my inner voice is saying: “I hope there are some cute shoes, I hope there are some cute shoes” With bated breath, I rush over to the shoes section and I anxiously look up and down the racks hoping to find a cute pair of any shoes, that I can buy and store for an upcoming occasion. Yes, us big feet girls can’t just buy shoes when we feel like it. I have to anticipate an upcoming occasion and buy the shoes just in case I get invited to a party and I don’t have to fight the masses to look for shoes later on, which is next to impossible to find ( you know what I am talking about).
Additionally, what is up with these narrow ass shoes? The bigger feet women in my circle cannot fit these shoes nowadays, as they are too narrow, and since when did pointed toe shoes became a fashion trend? It has proven to be even more difficult to go to a store and pick a pair of shoes off the rack. Ninety-five percent of the times, not only do I have to get the next size up (as if 11 is not big enough), but I have to have the store order the pair of shoes from one of their other stores and then wait anxiously for next 3-5 days for my shoes to arrive. This obviously does not prove to be convenient, especially if you are shopping for an event in the next couple of days. Not cool!
Ok, let’s get back to looking up and down the size 11/12 shoes rack. So, I stand there looking and with anticipation and anxiety, I still can’t find a pair of shoes trendy enough to warrant me trying them on! Why do they make the bigger size shoes so damn ugly? Not even the grandmas nowadays would wear some of these shoes they are making for us big feet women. They tend to be wider and look like something my Uncle Ray Ray should be wearing. Also, these shoes come in some neutral colors as to say that women with bigger feet are not supposed to be sexy, flirty and have fun. So, when I finally find a shoe that I like, I get excited and start salivating like a hungry puppy. I see the shoes that I like, I take it down, I look at the heels and my salivation stops. WTF, do I need a pair of shoes that’s 6 inches tall. I am already over 6ft tall. Do I look like I need to touch the ceiling of the store? I can never understand why the heels of these shoes are so DAMN high. My mom, calls them the womb shifter (I don’t know what she means by that, don’t ask!). I don’t need a six inch heel people! So there goes another disappointment in my already devastating shoe shopping experience.
Normally, most women go into DSW and leisurely walk around and look at the variety of shoes and enjoy how beautifully structured they are. What do I do?! Like a sprinter, I sprint up and down the aisles looking at the row of shoes until a bright labeled stickered box sticks out like a sore thumb, then you know you have found that size 11 or 12 shoes (when you have big feet, you know that bright sticker) and then, I look up to see the shoes and 8 out of 10 times I hate the DAMN shoes and I have this gut wrenching disappointment and utter disgust at the size of my feet. Then I slowly trot down the aisle looking for another bright labeled size 11/12 sticker only to be disappointed, yet again. The moment I see a shoes that could potentially make the grade, my heart starts to pump like I am on a new date and I grab that shoes from the box and try them on and most times I am satisfied and I will make the purchase.
Have you ever been in the store scouting for some shoes and you have that other big feet women scouting the same shoes right along with you and you are thinking to yourself. “Bitch don’t make me have to hurt you for my shoes.” Wait… it’s not your shoes Missy.” She is moving towards that shoes and you are moving in the same direction and you try to distract her by pretending that there are some other awesome shoes in front of you. That’s just a tactic to steal her attention from your prize shoes. Let me tell you it works because like human nature, the grass always seems greener on the other side. This gives you the chance to snatch that pair of shoes you have been eyeing all along.
Another of my irritation, is that I can never wait to buy shoes on sale, because I would never have a single pair of shoes if I did. I always have to buy shoes at premium price (I hate premium). There are a few times I saw some bomb diggidy shoes online and I say to myself, I am going to wait until these go on sale. WAIT UNTIL THESE GO ON SALE!! That’s a myth because as soon as I enthusiastically look for the shoes that I have been waiting to go on sale, click on the shoes and ready to select the size 11-12 choice- “low and behold” the size 11/12 option is grayed out. Do you know the expletives that go off in my head when that happens? I waited that long for this heart wrenching disappointment, yet again. I am going to make a plea to all you large feet women. BACK OFF from my shoes. Don’t you buy the last pair of size 11 shoes, pleaseeeeeeee leave them for ME. You have been warned!
Also, I hate going shopping with my little feet friends, there is nothing more annoying than watching your friend picking up the cutest shoes and asking you if you like it. NO, I DON’T LIKE IT- I DON’T LIKE YOU. Stopping asking me if I like a shoes that they don’t have in my size, do you want me to taunt you about things you want, but can’t have. So yes, little feet , average feet women, stop asking those questions, stop flaunting your cute ass shoes in front of me and most importantly stop asking me if I like them- OK.
The frustrations are real my fellow big-feeters. I try not to let the lack of choices, especially in stores, affect me. I try to make the best of having big feet. There are lots of great choices online nowadays for big feet women. But as I mention before, you do pay a premium.
That’s all for now, as usual, ladybugs. Take care of your insides and your outsides will shine.